It happens all the time. Or at least it does, periodically.
You walk inside a store and see a piece of clothing that instantly catches your eye, and you decide you love everything about it. The color, the shape, the texture, the price! You find yourself picking one in your size from the rack. As you walk out the store with your happy purchase, you start to mentally put a whole outfit around this recent buy.
Everything seems so perfect and dandy, until you’re at your best friend’s party and everyone starts humiliating you through snarky remarks, telling you how awful and unappealing you look. And though your hair may look nice, it’s the outfit that completes the look - and the reason why you’re running away from the party in tears ... in an ugly outfit.
OK, so maybe life’s not that dramatic. And maybe no one has ever discriminated against your personal style. But maybe they should - all within good reason and proper etiquette, of course.
Because sometimes what we like is not meant for us, here is a quick breakdown of easy-to-follow fashion do’s and don’ts for all body types that will make your style executions the life of the party!
You tend to have trouble finding things that fit you well, and get frustrated every time you see a shirt, jacket or even pants that you like but are still a bit too wide on you.
Your two options for a better find (or fit) are to try buying from retailers that sell “Slim Fit” clothing: They tend to do a good job on inching in core areas that might otherwise fit you too loose, such as shoulders, underarms and waist.
You can also try getting things tailored. By getting a couple of inches cut from your pair of jeans, it will prevent you from looking like you’re trying to bring bell bottoms back. That’s just not going to happen. Another area that seems to be a problem for you are jeans. Jeans are meant to fit well around the waist, accentuating your butt and legs. Try and avoid any sort of relaxed-fit or wide-leg pants, since they will do nothing to complement your legs - or butt for that matter.
One word: lucky. You probably don’t think about certain details that many others do, because everything seems to be of good fit to you - for the most part. Where you do want to pay close attention is in the size of things that you get.
I’m sure you’ve seen other people your size wear shirts a size (or three) too small for them. This is not a cute look. It’s actually quite disgusting and pretentious. Make sure your tops fit you just well, and take into consideration that certain things might shrink after a wash. If at first wear, you can fit two fingers between the collar of a shirt without choking you, then this usually means you will be fine after you wash it.
A piece of encouragement for you is to be versatile with your clothing options! You might stay away from slimming jeans because you want certain parts of your body to breathe, but maybe going up a size in them will fit you well, and actually look good on you. If this is the case, make sure you wear them long enough before washing them, since it will retain the shape of your body after the wash.
There is a lot of misconception when it comes to what things you should wear that will cover whatever it is you want to cover. A word of advice from your fashion guru: You shouldn’t be restrained to wear nice things just because of your size. You have a body and a shape, so let’s refine it and bring it to show!
A couple of things you want to lean away from are things with large prints on them. This is anything from shirts, blouses, even pants. Large prints only hide you away, and actually make you look bigger than what you might be - flashack to Kim Kardashian at the MET this year.
Stripes, florals, and color-block ensembles are your enemies, so go for more monochromatic looks. A key for you will be pieces that slim your shoulders, cinch in your waist, and make you look less boxy and more curvy. You have them, so why not show them!?
So there you have it, darlings. Use these guidelines the next time you’re out on a shopping spree, or use it to do some spring cleaning within your closet!
And remember, the next time you’re out at a party and see someone who clearly hasn’t jumped on the stylish bandwagon, approach them kindly and complement that cute outfit they’re wearing, and educate them on why it just isn’t their look.
If they burst into tears or cause some sort of drama, take it as a sort of fashion breakthrough you just delivered on them. And then call your fashion guru so we can chat all about it over a glass of champagne!
Christian Baez is a style influencer, born and raised in San Diego. His specialties include fashion writing, personal styling, and promoting emerging fashion businesses. For business inquiries, he can be reached at Mrchristianbaez@gmail.com or via Twitter @mrchristianbaez.
Top left: Andrew Garfield does slim fit right.
Bottom left: Rebel Wilson does monochromatic in a slimming dress.