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Hitting the town with Benny: Sexy ghosts, Gaga, galas and gossip!

Today, being October 1, starts another “countdown” for several of my gay friends. With Halloween now being 30 days away, many gays see this as another reason to go back to the gym, since “less is more” Halloween costumes have become sort of the trend.

Slutty angels, sexy Peter Pans, superheroes with big bulges, and so many other scantily-clad versions of the traditional Halloween costume are part of what makes Hillcrest the greatest place in town to celebrate Halloween. But we will talk more about Halloween in a couple of weeks.

I do, however, want to throw it out there that health and fitness is about taking care of yourself for overall good health. Starving yourself and mindlessly lifting weights for a month in preparation for Pride, Halloween, or a gay cruise or party, followed by binging after the event, is counter-productive. It does nothing for your health and will likely damage your body in the long run.

Take care of yourself year-round; that way, you won’t “have” to hit the gym for four hours a day and starve yourself for a month in order to “look” the way you want to for your slutty costume. It will also free up your time to attend all of the fabulous events that are always going on around town.

Here’s a sample of what’s up this week:

Friday, October 1, 2010: Gaga!

Lady Gaga, also known as “Our Lady of Gagalupe,” announced this past Monday that she added a San Diego stop to her Monster Ball Tour.

While the concert, to be held at SDSU’s Viejas Arena, is not until March 29, 2011, tickets went on sale this morning and the gays are already gobbling them up. Buy yours today!

Saturday, October 2, 2010: Celebrate North Park & Lavender Lens!

The Taste of North Park is the next neighborhood cuisine sampling event on the “Taste” circuit. Communities like Hillcrest, Little Italy, and Downtown all have similar events and with North Park’s culinary renaissance, this event is likely to be full of yummy delights! North Park is my hood, so I’m excited to have the chance to stroll around tasting all of the fabulous places just down the street.

The Lavender Lens is a fantastic monthly publication that has been providing news, entertainment, and social information to our LBT women’s community for nine years now! Publisher Bixi Craig and her team are celebrating this milestone with a fun party at Number’s Nightclub from 8 p.m. to close.

The evening will include drink specials served by guest bartenders Jen (of Bourbon Street fame) and Mila. I hear there is also going to be an “open-air fair,” give-a-ways, a massage booth, dancing and hot music from local entertainers and DJ’s such as: Jenn-Jenn, Tori Roze & The Hot Mess, Burlesque Artist Lady Borgia, DJ Sandra Ware, and DJ Kiki.

To my boys: I encourage you to check-out this party. Believe it or not, lesbians really do know how to throw a fun party, and while our female counterparts have their own share of drama (I hear), they are much more “chill” and actually seem to have a good time when they are out and about, instead of the cruisy, catty-ness us queens like to spit at each other. Congratulations to SDGLN’s media partner The Lavender Lens!

Sunday, October 3, 2010: Nudity and the Boy Scouts!

The hard working team of San Diego’s chapter of Scouting For All will host their 10th annual protest of the Boy Scouts’ nasty discrimination against several groups of people, including LGBT youth. The San Diego protest is fascinating, as it happens right in front of the local Boy Scouts’ Headquarters.

While I am not on the program this year, I have spoken for many years at this event and can attest that is a worthwhile cause. With the recent string of LGBT youth suicides, it is more important than ever that we fight against all discrimination in youth serving organizations. Join hard working organizers Howard Menzer, Mick Rabin, and their team at this important event which starts 11 a.m. at 1207 Upas Street.

The Vote Naked team will be out and about again this weekend, registering voters and explaining how people can “Vote Naked.” Look for them Sunday at Gossip Grill!

Monday, October 4, 2010: Pie in the Sky!

Mama’s Kitchen, one of our community’s most hard working HIV/AIDS service provider organizations, hosts an annual holiday pie sale that raises critically needed funds for the organization. The sixth annual Pie in the Sky Thanksgiving bake sale is a great way to give hope and compassion to those in need this holiday season.

Available now through Nov. 21, Mama’s Pie in the Sky is offering fresh pumpkin, pecan, apple and sugar-free apple pies for $20, the price of what it costs to prepare and deliver three hot meals a day to our clients. Visit www.mamaspies.org to place your order.

Tuesday, October 5, 2010: Gossip!

Speaking of Gossip Grill, the popular women’s hangout (that is incredibly open and friendly to everyone) has been around for a year now! Beloved manager and bartender Moe Girton tells me how excited she is that "GG" has become so special, and she hopes everyone will come out and celebrate one year of fun, gossip, food and drinks, at this fabulous venue that has been a great addition to the women’s community and community at large. Stop by Tuesday evening to celebrate!

Wednesday, October 6, 2010: Guys … Games … Grub - what more could you ask for?

In an effort to serve the men’s community better, The Center created “Guys, Games, & Grub” a few years ago to bring men together in a comfortable, safe, fun atmosphere. Guys, Games, & Grub has blossomed and brings in 200+ men each month, for, well, guys, games, and grub! The evening includes lots of mixing, mingling and gay chatter, snacks, drinks, hot guys…and of course, some games here and there. Stop by The Center between 6:30-9:30 p.m., say hi to Aaron Heier at the front desk, and have a fun evening!

And again, my calendar is full. Just wait until next week to see what is in store for the rest of October- it’s going to be a busy one!

Benny Cartwright is a staff writer with SDGLN who focuses on non-profits, politics, and higher education. Also known as "Mr. Pride," he regularly informs our readers about the various Pride celebrations happening throughout California (and Tijuana). Benny also writes a social column, giving a more in-depth look at his sometimes fabulous, sometimes crazy, but always eventful, life. He has written for a number of local publications over the years, starting with San Diego’s Update! newspaper in 2005. Benny is also involved with numerous community organizations, goes to grad school, and even has a "day job" – he’s one busy guy!