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Parents disowned this SF trans student who died, refused to claim the body

Daine Grey died in early July, his parents refuse to claim the body so theLGBT community stepped in.
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A college student in San Francisco died on July 2 and his parents refused to pay for his funeral according to a GoFundMe page. But the LGBT community has raised enough to cover the costs. 

It's almost been two weeks since the parents of Daine Grey, 22, found out about his death and they have still haven't met with the coroner to identify his body. The crowdfunding campaign says this is because they disowned him. 

So the community and its allies stepped up to take care of their own, raising almost 18k to cover the costs. The fundraising was started by Lady Katerina who writes in her plea: 

"As of July 16th his parents, who have disowned him, have been notified have yet to claim the body. Tomorrow is day 10 of parents not responding to SF Coroner and as a community we can claim the body."

Reality TV chef Nigella Lawson contributed $500 to the campaign. 

Lady Katerina says she will claim Daine's body on behalf of the community and his friends. 

"We will be going through Chapel of the Chime and we are looking to do a casket and Burial at that is what Daine would want. For Casket, burial clothes, funeral services, and Final resting place the amount qouted [sic] is 16,000. We need to work quickly and raise this money ASAP."

Pink News reports that San Francisco City College also responded to the situation via their Facebook page: 

“It is with heavy hearts we share the news that a member of our student community, Daine Grey, took their own life early July. Daine was a promising young student who was a gay trans man active with the City College of San Francisco Queer Resource Center, and who advocated for awareness of ADA needs.”

The school has made available extended counseling services through their Queer Resource Center. 

Daine had only come out as trans last year, posting his story on social media, “Hello guys, guess this is my big ‘public’ Coming Out moment: if we talk in person at all you probably already know, tbh. So… I’m transgender (hence the name/gender change- which is already legal btw)," he added, “This means I identify as a gender different from the sex I was assigned at birth, for those who don’t know. I’m also gay so, that’s a thing."

In a 2014 report from the Williams Institute, they found young trans folks were 22 times more likely to attempt death by suicide than rates in the general population.

Here are some resources to help if you or anyone you know may be considering taking their life by suicide:

-- The Trevor Lifeline: (866) 488-7386

-- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: (800) 273-8255

-- Suicide Awareness Voices of Education: save.org

-- Suicide Prevention Resource Center: www.sprc.org

-- Every county operates immediate mental health crisis response services. For information, contact your local county human services agency.