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Life Beyond Therapy: The joys – and sorrows – of dating apps

I am the first to admit that I have used dating apps: I even met one of my boyfriends on one (no, I’m not telling you which one).

Some apps are more for dating and romance (OkCupid; Plenty of Fish) and others tend to be hookup-oriented (Grindr; Scruff). If an app requires a face pic, it’s usually more relationship-oriented. If body part shots are prominent, it’s probably more about hooking up.

Have you ever noticed that lots of people are on more than one app? Maybe we’re hooking up until we meet Mr./Ms. Right. Nothing wrong with that, right?

Sorry, rhetorical question.

If you are new to the LGBT world and these apps are your first exposure to our community, that ain’t good. If you buy the logic of these apps — without questioning them — you’ll end up with a very narrow definition of what’s required to be popular. Not a perfect face or body? Not white enough? Too old? The message may be that “you don’t belong, so just go away and don’t bother us.”

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