Of all the problems in life, how much we weigh seems to be a concern for everyone I’ve ever met, myself included. In my work as a psychotherapist, clients typically don’t bring this up in the beginning of our work together. They usually wait until we’ve gotten to know each other better before they feel comfortable enough to talk about their weight.
This tells me that — for most of us — our weight is a very tender spot in our psyche. How much we weigh, how our body looks and how we feel about our body is a major part of our self-image.
In the LGBT community, our weight may be even more highlighted than in the straight world. I recently visited family members in Ohio, and my relatives repeatedly told me some version of: “Gay people always look better than us straight folks, you guys are always thinner and work out more than we do.”
As a psychotherapist, I often work with clients on their motivation for losing weight. This is usually the essential ingredient to success. I ask my clients:
-Why do I want to lose weight?
-What will help keep me on track in exercising and eating smart?
-How can I not sabotage the process?
I suggest that if you want to lose weight, you write down your answers to these questions and post them on your refrigerator. Use them to keep going when the going gets tough.