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Don't punish yourself for living life

Grant Foreman is SDGLN's fitness expert.

January and February was an amazing time for me spiritually, with my ten day silent mediation course, and energetically, with a perfect snowy trip to Paris and London. 

This also means I had ten days of literally sitting on my butt eating little followed shortly after by a week of foie gras, red wine, and croissants. 

My body went from a muscular 222 pounds to what I consider a "skinny-fat" at 208 pounds.  

My clothes fit different. The guy in the mirror looks different. My esteem took a dive. 

Part of my value system is honestly based off the look I put out; I'm a personal trainer and feel I should embody what I coach others on, also knowing that my outward appearance is hugely affected by the efforts I put in in terms of quality of food and exercise. 

This brought some light to the entire scope of of my values. 

I know that I also strongly regard my own sense of integrity, my compassion towards others, and the hopes that any joy I bring to myself may somehow be transmitted to those around me in the daily interactions. 

None of these things were affected by soft belly and smaller biceps. 

If that other aspect of my self regard wasn't in place, than these two months could have really negatively affected my mental state. 

Gay culture isn't unique in its heavy emphasis on image, but we're pretty harsh. 

There has to be a more holistic view of ourselves where appearance is just a slice in the pie chart.

And ideally that appearance is more an indicator of internal health than a status symbol. 

So what if that person has abs of steel if they're a total dick. 

Keep working through the periods where breaks in routine are unavoidable. 

Get back on track and don't punish yourself for living life. 

If you've yet to establish a good fitness routine, also, don't throw your hands up thinking it's too late to start. 

Let me know, writegf@gmail.com, if you need help on a program of your own or even want to meet in person to outline a plan. 

Our behavior needs tending to as well as our bodies.