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Stop telling women to stay out of gay bars says writer

Writer says women don't need "permission" to go to gay clubs.
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There are many opinions in the LGBT community about whether or not gay men’s clubs should be safe spaces for men only.

But Rose Dommu says that keeping females out of gay clubs is nothing more than misogyny and people shouldn’t exclude them.

She writes, “Dear gay men, stop telling women they can't be in gay bars.”

In an op-ed for Out Magazine, Dommu says women don’t need permission or an invitation to frequent gay nightclubs.

“I know this might surprise you, but in 2017, women can go anywhere we want to! And furthermore, we don't need your approval to do it!”

Some controversy about gay clubs is that women think that it’s a cheap and safe place to have their bachelorette parties, turning the venue into an oddity or side-show curiosity. And sometimes these women harass and "tokenize" the men.

Dommu understands this in her opinion and thinks that’s a valid point. However, she feels to marginalize every female is not fair.

“…but saying that no women should be in gay bars is a false equivalency because not all women in gay bars are there to drink through penis straws and request that the DJ play ‘The Thong Song’…

Women in gay bars are not limited to bachelorettes, did you forget that queer women exist? Trans women? Straight women with gay friends or straight women who just like gay bars or drag queens?

Well, yeah, you probably did.”

The writer is not beyond compassion and is supportive of asking an out-of-control cis-gender woman to be more respectful, but she re-emphasizes women shouldn’t have to have a reason to go into a “gay bar” because again that is misogynistic.

She ends the op-ed by observing that if gay men are so intimidated by women in their spaces they should look inward.

“If you can't dance to some shitty house song or go down on a stranger just because a woman is in the room, you need to examine what that says about you, not call for that woman's removal.”

Dommu adds, "And seriously, DJs, I want to hear 'The Thong Song' more, ok?"