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Commentary: This Thanksgiving, what I am thankful for

There is a tradition at our Thanksgiving table that includes everyone at the table saying out loud what we are thankful for. I have to admit that I am not a fan of this tradition.

Some of us around our Thanksgiving table have trouble talking about our feelings. I can write them – but I’m not one who can speak about feelings that are near and dear to my heart.

Perhaps this year I can just write what it is I am most thankful for and pass out copies to everyone at the table!

The truth of the matter is this. I am most thankful for those faces I see at our Thanksgiving table. The faces of my grandkids who make me laugh and make me so very proud for what they are making of their lives and for the wonderful human beings they are shaping up to be.

They are all different and yet they are all the same. I envy the relationship they have with one another as brothers and sisters. They care about one another, they hang out, they have each other’s backs, they know the importance of family. They are good kids – I love them – and I am thankful for them.

I am thankful for my daughters and sons - near and far. I love each one of them and the joy they have given me is beyond measure. I love each one of them differently, as I have a different relationship with all four of them – but I love them all with a heart filled with joy and pride and more love than they can ever imagine.

And Susan – I am most thankful for Susan. She never gave up, never gave in and never wavered in her love for me. She puts me in my place when I need to be put there and she loves me out of that dark place I sometimes find shelter in.

I’m not sure where I would be if Susan wasn’t in my life. It’s not knowable – so I won’t even venture a guess. I will simply say I’m thankful I have her in my life, and thankful she is the love of my life, and thankful she loves me back.

For those who do not understand or approve or believe in the validity of a family with lesbian parents, I wish you could be at our Thanksgiving table – then maybe, just maybe, you’d see how really ignorant all your arguments sound.

My friends, take time to be thankful for your blessings – not just this Thursday, but every single day. Be thankful for friends who make the days sweeter just by being in your life. Be thankful for shelter and food and your health. If you’re lucky enough to have one or both of your parents – be thankful.

For love and happiness and laughter, be thankful.

There is always, always, always something to be thankful for.

Happy Thanksgiving from my home – to yours.

SDGLN Contributor Barb Hamp Weicksel was born in 1952 in Pennsylvania and moved to California in the early 1980s, where she met her partner Susan. They've been together some 30 years and share the love of Susan's four children, nine grandchildren and four great-grandchildren. Her blog, Barb's Gift of Gab, can be found HERE.