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COMMENTARY: I don’t have a “gay agenda” – I have a life

I have no problem with politicians or business leaders or anyone, for that matter, having their own opinion about politics or religion or marriage or love or life.

Hopefully, we all live our lives according to what brings us happiness, fulfillment and joy. And this means different things to different people. This is the beauty of living in a free society – well – this is what should be the beauty of living in a free society.

My problem with people comes into play when those with all the power and the money start randomly picking out certain groups they just flat-out don’t like and then do whatever it takes to make their lives a living hell.

Where in the Constitution does it say anyone in any part of the legislative, executive or judicial branches of the government can do that?

Blacks, women, American Indians, homosexuals, Latinos -- to name a few -- have borne the burden since the beginning of our nation.

Why is this? Why are some people deemed “the other” and treated as such by a government which is supposed to protect and defend the rights and liberties of every person who lives within its borders?

And who gets to determine which groups are to be targeted? And why is such hatred allowed to infiltrate a government which is supposed to represent each and every one of us?

And when did the Christian religion seep into the laws of the land? Why on Earth would anyone who doesn’t live by the Christian religion have to live by laws based on said religion? We aren’t living in a theocracy, although sometimes it feels that we are being pushed and pulled into that God-like system.

And when did it become the norm for those in power to hold its citizen’s hostage to what they believe is right and just and is most certainly not the will of the people?

And finally – for those of you who believe I have a “gay agenda:”

• I don’t have an agenda – I have a life.

• I didn’t choose to be gay – it’s simply who I am.

• I don’t look at all straight women and think – oh yeah – I want me some of that.

• I don’t want special rights – I want the rights guaranteed me by the Constitution.

• I don’t want to go to a “gay” church – I want to go to a church that believes we are all equal in the eyes of God – whatever God it is you worship.

• I don’t want a “gay marriage” – I want a marriage that is as equal in the eyes of the law as any other marriage, anywhere in the country.

• I don’t want a “special” job – I just want a job from which I can’t be fired simply because of who I am.

I just want to live my life with the person I love without the fear of being attacked physically, verbally or emotionally, you know, like every other citizen of this United States of America.

If you believe in any way anything I said in this article is an “agenda” – then so be it. It can’t be much different than yours – and really – how different are you than me?

SDGLN Contributor Barb Hamp Weicksel was born in 1952 in Pennsylvania and moved to California in the early 1980s, where she met her partner Susan. They've been together some 30 years and share the love of Susan's four children, nine grandchildren and four great-grandchildren. Her blog, Barb's Gift of Gab, can be found HERE.