I’ve been reading about these Christian parents who believe they have somehow failed as a parent because their child is gay. These are inevitably the parents who have disowned their child for being gay.
Christian parents who disown their children do so because they are told that homosexuality is an abomination, and Scripture does permit parents to have a wayward son put to death by stoning and for simply being a drunkard or immoral. (Deuteronomy 21: 18-21). This whole stoning thing isn’t allowed in the 21st century, at least in the western world, so the parents disown the child.
I say we review what their Bible says are abominations.
• Divorce and remarriage are also abominations. How many Christian parents do you know who have been married and divorced? Do they really have the right to disown anyone when their own life is an abomination?
• Adultery – Number 7 of the 10 Commandments – is an abomination. How many parents have disowned their child for having an affair? And – how many parents themselves have the stain of the adultery abomination on their list of sins against God? Can they disown themselves?
• The hiring of a prostitute is an abomination. I’m thinking the father who takes his son to a strip club and pays to “make him a man” might fall into this abomination category. Who gets disowned here – the father or the son?
• Women wearing men’s clothing is an abomination. Shall the mother who is wearing her husband’s T-shirt disown her daughter for wearing her boyfriend’s T-shirt? I’m just asking.
You get where I’m going here. It’s so hypocritical to make a political and social movement out of homosexuality and not any of the other abominations of the Bible. If you’re going to disown your child for the abomination of homosexuality, then must you not disown them for all of the other abominations listed in the Bible?
I don’t have any children of my own – however, I love Susan’s children and grandchildren as if they were my own. I can’t think of one thing they would do for me to ever turn my back on them forever and say I don’t know them. We all have times when we may be disappointed or concerned or wonder what their thought process might be – but to disown them? I cannot imagine.
I’m sure they all (the kids and grandkids) have times when they wonder what the hell their mothers and grandmothers are doing, but - they stand by us – and stand with us. Not one of them has disowned us because we are gay. They tend to be proud of us for being open and honest and they tend to get angry when we are treated poorly – and they celebrate with us as change comes to a nation steeped in religious hypocrisy.
I’m wondering if parents shouldn’t be more concerned that they failed as a parent because they disowned their child.
Barb Hamp Weicksel was born in 1952 in Pennsylvania and moved to California in the early 1980s, where she met her partner Susan. They've been together some 30 years and share the love of Susan's four children, nine grandchildren and four great-grandchildren. Her blog, Barb's Gift of Gab, can be found HERE.