Why are people so hateful? This isn’t a rhetorical question. I’m seriously asking. Why are people so filled with hate and anger?
In the United States of America, there are millions of people who hate millions of other people based on the color of their skin, or their religion, or their politics or their gender. We hate people because they like guns, because they eat meat, and here in San Diego we hate people because they like the Oakland Raiders.
How can we hate people we don’t even know?
I’ve been told that people who hate are lacking Jesus in their lives. If only they had Jesus all the hate would be replaced with love, kindness, understanding, forgiveness and acceptance. The world would be filled with puppy dogs and sweet little kitties!
While I respect their right to their opinion, this sort of thinking has not been my experience in the world in which I live.
What I experience in the homosexual world is this: The people who are spewing hatred against me and my community the loudest are the very people who claim they are following the teachings of Jesus.
The Pope, Michelle Bachmann, Bryan Fisher, Dan Cathy, Mike Huckabee, Paul Ryan, Jan Brewer, Rick Perry, Scott Walker -- to name just a few.
It appears to me that their religion makes these people intractable, and most unwilling to accept any other religion other than their own. They are the only ones headed to heaven, they are the only ones with the answers, they are the only ones qualified to write all the rules, laws and codes of conduct. Those of us who don’t fit into their mold certainly don’t feel their love, but we certainly feel their anger and hate.
And those who love to say: “Hate the sin and not the sinner.” I don’t understand this at all. What does this even mean? Are they saying: Yes, you’re gay, and that’s a sin – but I don’t hate you, I just hate the sin of homosexuality? How can you separate one from the other? And how can you hate someone simply for who they are because your religion tells you to. What sort of religion does that? A hate-filled religion, that’s what sort.
I’ve also been told that people are so angry because they are frightened. Frightened that the America they knew is gone. Frightened of the boogie man who is coming to take their guns. Frightened of the gays and their radical agenda. Frightened of the Muslim, Socialist, Communist, black man who sits in the Oval Office.
We live in a world that loves to make money off of hate. One of the best examples of this was the Chick-fil-A Appreciation Day. The day wasn’t about free speech as Mike Huckabee tried to spin it; it was really about the anger and hate attached to the gay marriage issue. It was telling people that if they hated what gay marriage would do to traditional marriage and the values of America, they needed to go buy a chicken sandwich and support a company that donates money to organizations that fight against anything gay on a global scale. And people stood in line for hours to devour the hate-filled sandwich.
I can understand not agreeing with everyone about everything. I can understand the frustration with government not doing all that you believe needs to be done, and I can most certainly understand the feeling that your life, your beliefs, your well-being matter little to anyone with any power.
What I don’t understand is the anger and the hate. You put hateful people in a hate-filled environment, and hateful things will happen. This is where we are …
Barb Hamp Weicksel was born in 1952 in Pennsylvania and moved to California in the early 1980s, where she met her partner Susan. They've been together some 30 years and share the love of Susan's four children, nine grandchildren and four great-grandchildren. Her blog, Barb's Gift of Gab, can be found HERE.