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Pop Op: Contemplating Valentine's Day in a new fashion

True story: The last guy I had an official Valentine’s Day date with ended up
sleeping in my bedroom for three years! Truth be told, it was with his boyfriend after I rented my house in San Diego to them when I moved to Los Angeles. However, this year Nick is my Valentine and I want to make sure he ends up in my bedroom with me for a lot more than three years. So I am wondering… now that I’ve got the guy, how do I keep him?

How much is that doggie in the window
After celebrating New Year's Eve in Los Angeles, Nick and I packed our bags for a weekend in San Diego. Our first stop was brunch with friends at The Tractor Room, then we headed to Fashion Valley Mall to do a little shopping. Somewhere between Barney’s Co-op and Bloomingdale's, a dalmatian puppy caught Nick’s eye. More specifically, a Dalmatian puppy stuffed animal at the Build-A-Bear Workshop. Unfortunately for Nick, the limited edition Valentine’s Day Dalmatian didn’t go on sale for another week and fortunately for me, I had a great gift idea. You see, I may have found myself an older man, but he’s still a kid at heart.

Underwear optional
“So what else are you going to get him for Valentine's Day?” my workout partner Eddie asked during an arms workout.

“He liked the Aussiebum underwear I got him for Christmas, I think I might be getting him some more,” I said with a smile. “Maybe a sexy jockstrap that shows off his ass!”

“That’s a good idea, maybe I should get Lloyd some cute underwear,” Eddie said as his face lit up. “He really likes Tommy Hilfiger, they make some cute underwear!”

I gave Eddie a dubious look.

“He’s kinda innocent like that,” Eddie said defensively.

“Nick’s not,” I smiled and added, “There are some definite perks to meeting a guy at Folsom!”

They call it puppy love
I had just walked in the door from a trip to the Hollywood & Highland mall when my friend Brian gave me a call to catch up. Of course he wanted to know what I had gone shopping for and I had to explain the Build-A-Bear Dalmatian adventure.

Between his laughs I pointed out that I had just walked the Hollywood Walk of Fame, past tourists and all of those crazy costumed people who stand outside the Chinese Theater. I was more than ready to face down his laughter.

“Did you actually build it?” asked Brian, trying to contain his laughter.

“Yes, and the lady made me pick out a little heart and kiss it and make a wish when I put it inside him,” I said through his fits of laughter. “Now you and your cold dead heart can shut up!

Armed and dangerous
“You’re doing what?” Hunter said to me after having lunch on the lot.

We were walking down Fake New York Street where it was obviously springtime for whatever had been filming because all of the fake trees were in full bloom.

“He rented a cabin in the woods with a jacuzzi and everything,” I smiled.

“And what exactly are you going to do for four days?” Hunter asked. “It’s not like you can get spa treatments or anything!”

“He’s bringing his dogs and we are going hunting,” I explained. “He’s going to kill something and fix it for dinner.”

“He’s bringing a gun?” Hunter said, stopping dead in his tracks. “Your phone does have a GPS so we can track you down when you don’t make it back, right?”

The game plan
Valentine's Day is really just another day of the year, but it’s made me think about how am I going to keep this relationship going and I’ve figured something ou t… Listen to what my boyfriend wants and needs, whether that is a hug or a stuffed animal, because it’s the little things that lets him know I do pay attention to him and I know how to say I love you in many different ways.

What’s sexy can mean different things to different people, sometimes it’s more innocent, sometimes it has an edge, but I always want my man to know how hot I think he is. When it comes down to it, being in a relationship is an adventure and sometimes that might be roughing it in the woods and other times it might be lounging on a cruise ship balcony ... but as long as it’s with someone you love it should always be exciting.

Travis D. Bone is a Los Angeles based writer and a graduate of the University of California at San Diego. After spending 13 years in San Diego where his journalism efforts earned him a San Diego Press Club award he took his chances on moving to Los Angeles to become a television writer. Now he’s working in finance for a studio, so that didn’t turn out quite the way he expected. On the upside he’s still writing, still single and still living it up splitting time between Los Angeles and San Diego. In short he’s got a lot of stories to tell.